Women can so easily be conditioned by society to believe that we aren’t worthy of love… everywhere around us there are messages that women are too fat, or too old, or not pretty enough… just not enough. I would say that all women suffer from some sort of insecurity or other.
A male friend of mine once told me that men see their
romantic relationships as just one piece of the pie that is their lives, but
that relationships for women can often be the whole pie.
Perhaps women do think about relationships more than men
do, but a strong woman will never make her relationship the whole pie. It’s
vital for a woman to remember her little girl dreams and go out and find them,
and to focus on the things that bring her pleasure (her friendships, family,
pets, hobbies, interests and sports, for instance). A fulfilled woman is an
In order for a woman to be happy in a relationship, she
should choose to be with a man who is crazy about her otherwise she WILL end up
hurt. Have you ever read a love story where the hero doesn’t madly cherish the
heroine by the end of the book? And yet real-life women, for whatever reason,
often stay in relationships where they don’t feel loved or cherished…
Creating female characters in fiction that are both strong
AND realistic can be quite tricky, and a balance needs to be struck. Strong
female characters must show their vulnerabilities in order to come across as
both human and likeable. What’s important, however, in order for the female
characters to be termed “strong” is that they don’t allow their insecurities to
govern their behaviour at every turn. They should acknowledge their
insecurities and hopefully grow and change as the novel progresses.
Healthy men are attracted to happy women who love life and
aren’t dependent on a man for their happiness. And I would say that the key to
creating a strong female character in a novel is to ensure that she maintains a
healthy balance in her life, and loves herself first before she gives her love
to any man. Only then will she be truly happy in a relationship.